A candid video by Ducci Lou Carter has gone viral, sharing her shocking disappointment after discovering she was having a boy. As time passed, she found herself excited for the arrival of her baby boy.
Ducci Lou Carter‘s candid video has gone viral, showcasing her disappointed reaction to discovering she was having a boy. Despite the initial shock, Carter shares that time has passed and she is now excited for her future baby boy.
Breaking Down the Expectations
When it comes to sex reveals, no one knows how things will go. For Carter and her husband, their small family gathering turned into an emotional experience when they cut into the cake, revealing a son. Instead of cheers, Carter felt tears, overcome with grief over not being able to have a daughter.
‘I got lost in fantasizing about life with a baby girl,’ Carter shares. ‘I cried because I don’t get to do the little, cutesy girl things with her.’ Her husband’s understanding and comfort helped ease her emotions, reminding her that it was okay to feel this way and that she would eventually come to terms with having a son.
The Stigma Surrounding Gender Preference
Carter emphasizes that women often feel ashamed of expressing their preference for a specific gender, fearing they’ll be judged as not being a good mother. Her video aimed to break down this stigma, showcasing the reality of disappointment and grief after discovering it’s not going to be a girl.
‘I always see videos of the dads throwing a fit or running away,’ Carter says. ‘I feel like men are expressive about their gender preference, and women are not allowed as much. We always have to answer, ‘Oh, it doesn’t matter.’ [Women] might have preferences.’ By sharing her experience, Carter hopes to inspire others to speak up and acknowledge their feelings.
Gender preference refers to an individual's inclination towards a specific gender, either male or female.
Research suggests that approximately 0.5-1.7% of the global population identifies as transgender, with numbers varying across countries and cultures.
Factors influencing gender preference include genetics, environment, and socialization.
Studies have also shown that exposure to diverse representations of gender in media can impact an individual's understanding and acceptance of non-binary identities.
Moving Forward with Acceptance
As time has passed, Carter‘s emotions have shifted from disappointment to excitement for the arrival of her baby boy. She encourages women who may be going through a similar situation to allow themselves to feel and grieve the loss of their initial expectations.
‘It’s very important to let yourself feel,’ Carter advises. ‘I would advise moms to give themselves time to grieve that life they fantasized about with the gender they wanted, move on from it, and find things to get excited about. It will pass, and it does pass.
