Overcoming the Grip of Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) in Everyday Life

The Anxiety of Missing Out: Can FOMO Be Overcome?

Fear of missing out (FOMO), the anxiety that comes from feeling left out of social gatherings with people we care about, is a very real phenomenon. While it may seem like you’re missing out on exciting events or opportunities, research suggests that FOMO is more closely tied to our relationships and social interactions.

The Social Underpinnings of FOMO

Studies have shown that the feelings of envy or regret from missing out on social events are not just about the experience itself, but also about feeling disconnected from others. A study by behavioral researcher Jacqueline Rivkin found that people feel FOMO when they’re missing out on small, mundane social gatherings with friends, rather than just big events.

“It basically refers to this anxiety that a lot of us feel when we miss out on a social gathering with people that we really care about,” Rivkin explained. “It’s this sort of sinking, creeping feeling that people are bonding without us, and we have somehow missed that.”

The Extent of FOMO

FOMO is not limited to social settings; it’s also used as a marketing tool to encourage consumers to jump on products or opportunities. In fact, the term has been around for about 20 years, originating in online communities.

Rivkin’s team conducted seven experiments across thousands of participants to understand their responses to potential FOMO situations. They found that people from all walks of life can experience FOMO, regardless of age or background.

“We find that pretty much anyone can get FOMO if there is a social group or sort of core group of people,” Rivkin said.

The Health Consequences of FOMO

While FOMO may seem like a minor issue, research suggests that it can have serious consequences for our mental health. Studies have linked FOMO to sleep disturbances, social anxiety, depression, and academic decline.

For example, a study found that FOMO among American college students could be predictive of consumptive or illegal behavior, such as increased alcohol and drug use.

Solutions to Overcoming FOMO

So, how can we overcome the anxiety of missing out? Rivkin suggests that setting boundaries and prioritizing our own needs can help. She also recommends engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment, rather than constantly comparing ourselves to others.

By recognizing the social underpinnings of FOMO and taking steps to manage our expectations and prioritize our relationships, we can learn to overcome this anxiety and live more fulfilling lives.